Sex In a Pan a Birthday Tradition

I have been having sex in a pan at my birthday for at least 11 or 12 years now. It wouldn't be my birthday without it. There are so many ways to make this recipe but this is my favourite variation. 

my birthday about 5 years ago pre-baby and pre-marriage, thats the sex in a pan in the corner 

Sex in a Pan

1 cup all purpose flour

1 stick butter or margarine, softened

1/2 cup chopped pecans

about 1 cup cool whip (I buy the big container and use 1/2 for the cream cheese layer and the other 1/2 for the last layer)

1 cup powdered sugar

package cream cheese ( the one in the box)

2 skor chocolate bars or some other chocolate bar that you can smash up and sprinkle on top

2 packages instant pudding, I use butterscotch and chocolate pudding. Double check that it's the instant and not the kind you have to cook.(3-1/2 oz each)

3 cups milk

For the Crust Blend together flour, butter and Pecans with a pastry cutter  and press into bottom of 13"x9"x2" pan. Bake at 375 degrees for 5-10minutes. Let cool completely

Mix the cream cheese, powdered sugar and cool whip thoroughly and spread on crust. Mine is always hard to spread on the crust. It helps if the crust is completely cool and the cream cheese layer is very soft.

Mix the pudding and milk thoroughly and pour onto first two layers. Repeat with second pudding flavour.

For the Top layer spread with remaining Cool Whip and sprinkle with two smashed up Skor bars.